Topic: Otaku dating?

[FallinG_StaR]

Just to make one thing clear, I like falling in love what I'm bored of its the emotional effects that comes with it.

Example:
You meet a girl you talk to her and YOU fall in love. Go home always thinking about her. (Keeping you awake) Every time you see her your hearth skips a beat. (In my case its troublesome as I have a weak heart) You get close to her (become good friends) then you find out she has someone already in her life (or married). You feel so bad that its hard for you to continue seeing her because of what you used to feel for her and now you feel bad for it.

That's why I'm bored of love... its a gamble... and I'm now always expecting it to end the same way as the example above, and that way making it boring.

Ok?

Male and female friendships are the best I have a lot of girl friends and there's no problem. And I'm not trying to have sex with them... well not with all of them at least...

[REDACTED]

Just to make one thing clear, I like falling in love what I'm bored of its the emotional effects that comes with it.

Example:
You meet a girl you talk to her and YOU fall in love. Go home always thinking about her. (Keeping you awake) Every time you see her your hearth skips a beat. (In my case its troublesome as I have a weak heart) You get close to her (become good friends) then you find out she has someone already in her life (or married). You feel so bad that its hard for you to continue seeing her because of what you used to feel for her and now you feel bad for it.

That's why I'm bored of love... its a gamble... and I'm now always expecting it to end the same way as the example above, and that way making it boring.

Ok?

Male and female friendships are the best I have a lot of girl friends and there's no problem. And I'm not trying to have sex with them... well not with all of them at least...

I wouldn't consider that falling in Love, it's one sided. But I do understand your meaning.
I have lots of friends but none of them are women. There are women I am friendly with but not like real friends.
But if you do that's ok.   

[cata]

Ok, REDACTED, let's have this discussion. What about gay men? Gay men don't want to have sex with women because they obviously don't feel atracted towards women. Since the sex part is out of the way, can gay men and women be friends? What are you going to say? Can men be friends with women or gay men aren't real men?

[UruseiNeo]

In response to Falling, I'm actually fine if find out she already had someone.  Because I don't get too attached without knowing this, it's easy for me to give up after finding out. 

It's a disappointment, sure, but for me it goes away in a good night sleep.  Finding out whether she is taken is a problem cause the easiest way is also the most embarrassing way >.< which WOULD likely lead to some awkwardness.

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To add to cata's comment, REDACTED, what about Gay men friends with Lesbians? Then the sex issue is 100% out of the way, both sides (just in case u bring up the argument of women subconsciously wanting sex which would be dodging the question)

Also, I am disappointed that you didn't exclude incest from your theory and that's gross so you fail there. XD

[REDACTED]

Ok, REDACTED, let's have this discussion. What about gay men? Gay men don't want to have sex with women because they obviously don't feel atracted towards women. Since the sex part is out of the way, can gay men and women be friends? What are you going to say? Can men be friends with women or gay men aren't real men?

I'm sorry I'm not qualified to talk about homosexual relationships. I have no experience with that. So if you want to talk about heterosexual relationships with which I do have experience that's ok.

[cata]

^ Oh right... To be able to talk about racism, you'd have to be black.

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^ Oh right... To be able to talk about racism, you'd have to be black.

No but I do not assume that I know anything about homosexual relationships.
Gays being mentioned in a discussion about a heterosexual situation is just a strawman argument anyway.
The thread did not start out as being about gays so why add it to the mix.
Any answer I give will be useless since I'm 1) not Gay and 2) am not in a gay relationship

To talk about racism it helps to have actual facts and not just be Politically Correct.
The ever shrill minority screaming loudly so they don't have to deal with actual facts.

Live in a few other countries and then come back and tell me about racism.
I was around before PC got it's tentacles wrapped around everyone and everything.
Now we have problems with racism that did not exist before and hypersensitivity to
issues that were non-issues before.

I've had people be racist towards me but since I'm not in the "victim" category it's meaningless.

[cata]

You really think being in a relationship with a man is that different than it is with a woman?

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You really think being in a relationship with a man is that different than it is with a woman?

Why would you think it would be the same?
Men and Women are fundamentally different in so many ways. It's not just the sexy bits that differentiate them.

How much personal experience do you have with homosexual relationships since you keep bringing it up?
If I don't know about a subject, I can learn about it but I would not consider myself qualified to give advice
on subjects that I know little to nothing about.

I have been into the more modern Anime for 22-23 years at least and if you count stuff like Speed Racer as Anime,
I think I know enough about Anime to talk about it intelligently.

I certainly have a lot of life experience with dating and relationships and I'm the guy my friends call when they
have trouble with their relationships.

The internet is populated by a lot of people with opinions that are based solely on what they think.
It's ok to have an opinon but if you pass yourself off as knowing what you are talking about. Then you
ought to have more to back it up than just saying "Well I like it" or using some politically correct BS you heard
at school, or from a friend or even worse gleaned from any of the mainstream media.

Leave the US and live outside it for a while and you'll learn all sorts of things about Americans and why so many
people dislike us. Things you won't hear at school or on the news.

Anyway this isn't related to dating or anime.

You don't have to agree with me and you can make up your own mind about gay dating practices.
If you think men and women can truely be friends then by all means don't listen to me, go out there and
prove me wrong.
You can always become gay and have a homosexual relationship and discover all about that for yourself
if that's your choice. Then you will really know if gay men can really be friends etc...

I try and give advice that's actually workable in the real world.
I talk about things I have a good understanding of.

[Urusei0Yatsura]

How did we get from otaku dating to discussion about homophobia and racism? Shouldn't they have their own discussion?

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How did we get from otaku dating to discussion about homophobia and racism? Shouldn't they have their own discussion?

Yes, you are right they should be in a seperate topic. The moderator brought up the subject if you go back and see where it was brought in.
lots of Otaku out there but they don't always wear a T-shirt that says they are otaku. 

[swizzle]

Just to make one thing clear, I like falling in love what I'm bored of its the emotional effects that comes with it.

Example:
You meet a girl you talk to her and YOU fall in love. Go home always thinking about her. (Keeping you awake) Every time you see her your hearth skips a beat. (In my case its troublesome as I have a weak heart) You get close to her (become good friends) then you find out she has someone already in her life (or married). You feel so bad that its hard for you to continue seeing her because of what you used to feel for her and now you feel bad for it.

That's why I'm bored of love... its a gamble... and I'm now always expecting it to end the same way as the example above, and that way making it boring.

Ok?

Male and female friendships are the best I have a lot of girl friends and there's no problem. And I'm not trying to have sex with them... well not with all of them at least...

Nice description! xD
I haven't had that feeling in ages x.x
I used to have that kind of thing. During high school there were 2 different girls I was in love with.
Neither of 'em ended up liking me though >.<
I'm not exactly sure why, but I haven't really fallen in love with anybody since then.
I'm leaving for Japan soon though and I'm hoping to be able to find an awesome otaku japanese girl xD
Not that race matters at all, but I like speaking Japanese and not so much English which could have something to do with it. xP

Oh, and most of my friends are female btw and I consider them to be real friendships...

[cata]

I appologize for making the "offtopic" but I couldn't let the discussion go. REDACTED you have a PM.

[FallinG_StaR]

How did we get from otaku dating to discussion about homophobia and racism? Shouldn't they have their own discussion?

I'm kinda waiting for you to create those topics... LoL
Master Topic Creator

As for the offtopic, well it happens a lot in here so we kinda get used to it. It's not like we do it on purpose... its a chain reaction... and if the PM cata send to REDACTED is about what I think it is... I'm sure by now he understands cata point of view.

So lets all hold hands and be gay about it...    I mean the old gay... It was originally used to refer to feelings of being "carefree", "happy", or "bright and showy". 

Sorry for the off topic but Wikipedia is Homophobic...
Top 5 Gay places in the world:
 Gay, Armenia
 Gay, Russia
 Gay, Georgia, United States
 Gay, Michigan, United States
 Gay, West Virginia, United States
 

It's so funny taking things out of context.

[cata]

He didn't. Ah who cares. I'm happy with myself, I'm happy with my girl friend and I'm happy with my boy friends.