Topic: For the Relationship Challenged

[UruseiNeo]

It's Final Exams and I have one exam left.

I'm done school

[cata]

You know what happens next, right? BEACH!!!!!! @_@  ATARU MODE ON! x'D

[UruseiNeo]

........ Are you suggesting I should go to a beach, alone, and go up to random girls whose age could be anywhere between 20 and 29 (because my age judgement SUCKS)?

[foxhead556]

@urusei or u could just go to the mall wit friends and if you see a girl you like go for it!*MOKKORI!!!*

[UruseiNeo]

-_-'''

[FallinG_StaR]

-_-'''

I see your problem sir. And seriously you need to get over it. Are you going to let that problem hinder you for the rest of your life?

Oh btw, the problem is obviously you're shy towards the opposite sex... deal with it... btw if you think about it wouldn't a anime loving girl be shy about telling someone else (boys) that she likes that kind of thing?

You can always try Craigslist...Here... check her out... http://toronto.en.craigslist.ca/tor/w4m/2328081592.html

[UruseiNeo]

No.... here's what my real problem is:

When I meet a new person (regardless of gender) I am generally really friendly.  I'm not as socially awkward as I seem to lead on and I think I may use this as a defense mechanism sometimes.  My problem lies that I am too friendly and end up in that area most people call "the friend zone" before I even start considering making a move.

Then the one time this DOESN'T happen, I wait too long. 

Before I can really start on moving forward, I think I need to make sure I'm completely over this person.  I am NOT going to confront her because I am NOT the kind of person who will make another feel awkward or guilty, (even though that's what I might want deep down. Luckily, I have desires that take priority over that one). 

Instead, I will actually try to be friends.  This way I can get over her without actually bothering her.

Have I made any errors in my thinking this time?

[FallinG_StaR]

Have I made any errors in my thinking this time?

Yes...

Before I can really start on moving forward, I think I need to make sure I'm completely over this person.

Now seriously... talk with the girl from the link I posted earlier...

[cata]

Neo, don't wait for the feelings to go away. You have to kick them out and I mean it. I waited 2 and half years and when I decided to kick her out of my mind, it only lasted 3 days. Why didn't I do it sooner? Because I'm stupid, that's why. Don't do the same mistake I did.

I feel like you're coming with all these excuses in order not to move on. Also, you're so obcessed with finding a girlfriend that you may not find her because you end up being blinded by your own standards.

I'm not looking for a relationship right now because Law school eats my spare time so I don't want to waste no one's time. And I also want to focus 100% on classes. Of course that for my friends I always have time but not for boy/girlfriends. However, in a boy/girlfriend I search for sense of humor, positive attitude and kindness. I don't care about what his/her hobbies are, their favourite colour, what music they're listening to because we can share those and end up liking the same things, with time.

Like, we're young and so what if we're single? PARTY ON!

Also, don't look for love. Let love find you. xD

[UruseiNeo]

Did I say I was going to wait? No

I said I was going to be friends with her. 

After all this I'm already feeling like I've gotten over her a lot, which is why the next step would be friends. 

If I "cut her off" then that's just going to make it hundreds of times more difficult the next time I see her unexpectedly. That would be the equivalent of quitting smoking and then having a cigarette a few months later, you're just back where you started. 

Instead I'm taking the approach that will allow me to see her without bothering me.

By the way... "Let love find you"? Are you serious? As if that HASN'T been my approach thus far?

[Cosmic King]

I will give you these advices, UruseiNeo, and I do apologize if they sound quite simple

Be yourself, be honest to yourself, don't become obsessive, enjoy every second of love that life gives you, respect yourself as well as other people, stop suffering because of love and start gaining power because of love, don't do drugs, eat your vegetables and always remember that friendship is a special kind of love

I wish you the best of luck

[UruseiNeo]

THANKYOU, Exactly.

That was mostly what I am trying to do.

[FallinG_StaR]

THANKYOU, Exactly.

That was mostly what I am trying to do.

I also wish you the best of luck... you'll need it... especially when the time comes to eat your vegetables...

[UruseiNeo]

Hey, guess what? I can eat broccoli. I taught myself to tolerate it and now I can eat a side plate's worth and PREFER to when possible :p

So :p :p :p

Btw, that actually brings up a completely different reason why I am going to hold off looking for someone.  I really would like to get in better shape, and I will pound any one of you who says something about how I shouldn't worry about how I look I AM AWARE. 

But I happen to proud that watching an hours worth of anime while working on the Elliptical results in about 1000 caloires burned :D

So that's going to be my summer project. (According to my KIN class textbook, a REALISTIC goal is 10% of your current weight lost in one year. That means I should try to lose about 3% of my weight this summer.)

[cata]

It's fine to care about how you look BUT don't get obcessed with it. In fact, don't get obcessed with anything. Whether it's a girl, a game or love. Or whatever comes to your mind.