Topic: Dating tips in general?

[swizzle]

Well, I've been in Japan for only 4 or 5 days and there's already a girl I like. x.x
She's just awesome and if everything works out, I will have a date on Wednesday. We've made plans for Wednesday and I think it'll just be the 2 of us, though I'm not 100% sure. But either way it'll be awesome and I'll be nervous as heck. I don't even know if she has a boyfriend or not (though on facebook it doesn't say she has one). So any dating tips could be helpful xP

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Well, I've been in Japan for only 4 or 5 days and there's already a girl I like. x.x
She's just awesome and if everything works out, I will have a date on Wednesday. We've made plans for Wednesday and I think it'll just be the 2 of us, though I'm not 100% sure. But either way it'll be awesome and I'll be nervous as heck. I don't even know if she has a boyfriend or not (though on facebook it doesn't say she has one). So any dating tips could be helpful xP

Just relax and be yourself. After all you want her to like you for who you really are, not who you pretend to be.
Most important, have fun! 

[cata]

Well... relax. That's the hardest thing to do but also the best.

[SonicxReiHino]

For going to Japan that sounds like a present. And hopefully when you go back home you two stay in touch. About the boyfriend thing I wouldnt let it bother me. She would tell you if she did.

[veehive]

[THE DEVIL]Hmmm. Is she Japanese? Man, I'd be a little wary of a Japanese girl who's that ... aggressive ..., shall we say? Mm hmm. Just a word of advice from an Old Friend [/THE DEVIL]

 

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[THE DEVIL]Hmmm. Is she Japanese? Man, I'd be a little wary of a Japanese girl who's that ... aggressive ..., shall we say? Mm hmm. Just a word of advice from an Old Friend [/THE DEVIL]

 

Actually Japanese girls are not always shy. My friend is married to a Japanese girl, he's from Austria. His wife is not shy but neither is she flirty.
Most girls if they have a genuine interest in you have little trouble showing it, unless they are shy.

My wife is Asian and she was a little bit shy when I met her but she also had an interest in me.

It's the girls who are jealous, that you have to be careful of. If they are really jealous he should put on his track shoes and run away as fast as he can.

I think he'll be ok tho. 

[swizzle]

Thanks for the awesome advice everyone~! I really appreciate it xD
However, it seems that tomorrow will unfortunately not be a date =(
She asked if it was ok if Asuka and Andre came too (Andre is the foreigner she's in charge of as part of the buddy program at school and Asuka is one of her best friends. I went to karaoke with Asuka before and she's pretty awesome). I of course had to say yes, but after meeting with Miho a couple more times I'll work up the courage to ask her on a real date. Today I realized I'm really bad at holding a conversation though so I really need to work on that (and no it isn't because of the language. It's because I run out of things to say >.<). A friend gave me a bit of advice for that so I'll try it out tomorrow and see how it goes. Will keep you guys updated to let you know what happens when I actually ask Miho out.

[UruseiNeo]

not to get ur hopes up, but is it possible that this may be a double date?

[swizzle]

No, that wouldn't be the case. I know both of the other people that will be coming. One of them is from Slovakia and annoys the heck outta me and the other one is named Asuka and she's a close friend of Miho. But it's looking like I may not even be able to do that. Fate is really not on my side today. I ended up getting a really bad sore throat over the course of 5 hours. O.O
I didn't even know it was possible for my throat to get sore that fast, but I'm thinking it might be strept throat so I'll have to go to a doctor today. >.<
God hates me it seems.

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It's unwise to put all your hope in one girl. She might work out and she might not but you need to keep your eyes and options open. I'm not suggesting you chase every skirt that walks down the street but Japan has lots of pretty girls. Find a buddy and hang out and go to places where they like to go, like the Mall or something.
I met so many pretty girls working at the Mall when I was in Asia it wasn't funny. Lots of girls gave me their cell #'s. I didn't have any problems getting a date. After I was married I still had girls giving me their #'s and asking me to call them and many would text me, sometimes too much....

You are in the land of butterflies, relax and plenty will land on you. 

[swizzle]

Haha thanks for the advice. Today ended up being quite awesome after all even though it had a bad start. I ended up going up a class in Japanese and I had a great time with Miho and other people. And trust me, I'm not putting all of my effort into one girl. I just haven't found any other Japanese girls that interest me yet. Later I'll go to dinner with Miho and I'll ask her to a movie on Saturday most likely. Wish me luck! xD

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Good Luck and I hope you enjoy being a kid in a candy store. 

I'm sure if you are there long enough you'll find plenty of girls who will interest you.

It never hurts to have 2-3 girls as a backup. My brother in law had seven girlfriends at one point that he was dating.
Just don't let them catch you. 

[swizzle]

Haha, I'd feel bad if I juggled around girls. I'm all for keeping back-ups though xP
Anyways, today ended up being a lot of fun. Sure I was sick, but I ended up wearing one of those awesome white masks all day because of it xP
I also got to hang out with some awesome people and it was a lot of fun. Sure it wasn't a date, but it was still a lot of fun. I'm gonna try and ask Miho to a movie at some point (was gonna ask her for Saturday but she has a test on Sunday so she has to study for that). It'll be awesome if this works out though.
Based on past experience it probably won't work out cause I seriously think I'm cursed. My whole life every single girl I've liked hasn't liked me and every girl I get close with ends up liking me and I don't like them. because of that, I'm in my 20s and have never been in a serious relationship. I've never even really had a first kiss >.<
So basically I've stopped getting my hopes up, but I'm sure someday I'll find somebody. Every time it doesn't work out it's painful, but I'm so used to it by now that it doesn't bother me as much anymore. I just gotta keep a positive attitude and keep going strong xP
One plus for the day though was that I was able to hold a conversation for around 20 minutes! (That's gotta be a record for me! Usually I run out of things to say after about 5 minutes)

[UruseiNeo]

Dude, you're like me only walking around in Japan >.<

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Honestly you are probably trying too hard. Girls know when you are trying to hard and they don't like it.
You also don't want to marry the first girl you date either. The expression goes something like "Don't
fal in love with the first T:T you suck on."
You'd be surprised how many guys do.
I know too many girls that were dating other guys when I was dating them.
Anyway don't plan too much ahead, just have fun and everything will fall into place.
I had my first kiss when I was 13 or 14. That was a LONG time ago.
Although I was married when I was 21 and I do not reccomend that for anyone. You need to be
more mature than I was at that age to be married.
I hope you have fun and don't be afraid to ask girls out.
Also if you go to the comic conventions where the sell doujinshi there will be a lot of Otaku girls there.
Just a thought.