The World of Urusei Yatsura's Lum
Miscellaneous => General Discussion => Topic started by: UruseiNeo on May 27, 2009, 04:26:33 PM
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This post is mostly for Tass.
Not all girls are like that! I ONLY fall for boys who are already good friends of mine. Girls like this are rare though.
I don't use msn anymore unless I have really something important to tell someone. Otherwise, I don't even appear as offline. I used to log on just to see "my ex" avatar. I was that crazy for her.
My problem used to be (and sometimes it still is) that I planned everything. Like think of possibilities and figuring out what to do if they happened. Of course that some possibilities were too far away from the truth and this is what brings me down because I had all those expectations and in the end none of them were even near of being corresponded. To solve this problem is live every moment, instead of planning and build expectations. Like, if she sends you a text message, you reply normally and continue doing what you were doing at that point where you got a message and so on.
At msn, you can stop logging in if you want to. If you like msn that much you can still use it while trying to forget about someone. I wouldn't recommend to erase her contact. Whenever she starts the conversation, just act normal, don't try too hard to keep the conversation alive. Just let it flow. Don't try to plan the conversation, don't try to guess what she's going to say. That will only create expectations which leads to disappointment.
That's what I do and it works. You will eventually get over her but slowly. At least it won't hurt no one. Also, if you try to meet new people, hang out more with friends, look at other girls, etc. this will make you forget about her more easily.
This is what I do and I don't regret it.
Good luck, Tass.
yeah, I agree that works. I still took her off msn though cause it helps forget about her but at the same time if she has a reason to talk to me she can still talk, cause I didn't block her... at least I think I didn't 0.0?
Although I'm still having trouble with finding someone who likes me. Shouldn't there be some sort of signal guidebook?
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Well... first of all thz cata for the post ^^ sometimes I'm in a really bad mood and I think that my world can collapse in every moment so I become really sensitive at almost everything!
That day was a really bad one. The night before I woke up every hour because it was REALLY hot and I was really thirsty... then I went to school and I had a 3 hour essay test... we thought the subject was the political party of Italy shortly after the unification (the "historical left" and the "historical right") but noo.... the subject was the imperialism! gladly I read a Lenin text about the imperialism on the history book just in case the teacher change the subject at the last minute (lucky... I was really lucky!)... then during the interval I tell to myself "Ok... I have to avoid at ALL cost Glenda (that's the name of the girl, now it's more easy to talk about her!) and his boyfriend... I just can't stand them walking hand-in-hand.... So I go at the upper floor, where I KNOW I can't meet them because their class (and mine) are on the first floor... and guess who I meet? THEM!... I answer to their "hi" but worse they stop because they want to talk.
This sunday we are going to a birthday party of a firend we have in common, and they wanted to know more details about the party... so I spent the interval talking to his boyfriend avoiding at all cost eye contact with her....
Then after school I have to eat something... and fast! because at 14:30 I have the international House course (I learn english there lol)... then after that? is over? NOOOOO... I have theater course at school (yes, I'm an actor too XD). But after that... at 19:00 I have to run to the swimming pool because I have the waterpolo training!! and at 21:00 at LAST I arrive at home and EAT.... Then I look to my phone.. no sms... well I'm a bit sad but maybe she start to forgot me.... then I turn on the pc... turn on msn (I like being "traceable" for my friends)... and I don't even have the time to breathe that she is there saying "hello"... and this is bad... but I'm more happy.
At first I just answer to her question with "yes" or "no"... but I can't resist and after 2 or 3 minute I start a long conversation with her about the summer and the seaside... ythen she stop answering and she put a photo of her and his boyfriend as an avatar... I noticed what I have done (I did my best to keep the conversation alive, a bit miserable...) so I force myselft to stop talking and at least wait for her answer/questions...
Now about forgetting her... is a bit impossible at the time.
I don't know but it seems that I HAVE to meet her (and her boyfriend) in the corridors of the school everyday (maybe the school is to small... or maybe I'm just doing the same route everyday... doesn't matter). She sends me sms almost everyday after lunch (not but today... humm) and if she's online on msn she doesn't even give me the time to log in, she starts a conversation (she's not on today... hummmm).
This sunday we have this birthday party at the seaside, but his boyfriend is there.... and my waterpolo mates are there too... luckly, so I can spend my time with them to keep my mind busy.
But there's more, one of this weekends we (me, Glenda, and some others of my school mates) are going to the bowling, in memory of the last day of the trip at the concentration camps (the last day, we played some bowling).... and worse the next year I'm FORCED to work with her to make some sort of "work" about those concentration camps... and she said she is coming to see my theatrical recitation (most of his classmates are in this project at school)...
I know that is best to forget her... but is too hard right now! during summer maybe (no school) is going to be easy (I think she'll stop sending me sms while she can pass all the time with his boyfriend... who is going to the university the next year) but right now, is almost impossible without acting like a a**hole with her (and I don't want it).
I'm able to "live every moment"... when I'm with her, I really don't care if she likes me or not, she act like she do (she is kind with me, she always want to talk with me and I like to hear what she is saying).. but the thing is... this works only when I'm physicaly with her! Not at msn or the phone, I need to be standing in front of her, or else I feel sad being unable to express what I feel!
Obviously this count only if I'm alone with her or with other friends... when there's her boyfriend I feel like being under test... It's a bad feeling.
BTW Thanks again cata for your suggestions ;) I was already trying to do something like that on my own (or at least I want to do it)
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I have a suggestion; most msn now let you sign in as "offline" so if u do that, u can see who is online and they cant see you, when u long in.
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Tass:
I'm not going to lie, it wasn't easy to ignore my feelings for that special person. The first days of my strategy I ended up messing it up because I couldn't follow it 100%. I always ended up staring and talking. But I didn't give up and everyday I try to follow it. Sometimes I can't help staring and talking but the thing is that I don't get depressed because of it. I even talk to myself "Damn Cata! Stop! Wake up! She's not for you!"
Please, don't avoid her. If you do everything to avoid her, you'll be thinking about her all the time, which won't help forgetting her. You can avoid seeing them together romantically but you should not avoid her.
When they are being romantic with eachother near you and you have no friends that you can focus on, just leave and take a walk. And if you can't leave or focus on your friends, well... Be strong.
I'm a jealous person and I can't stand imagining someone getting together with my crush. I hate it when my friends talk about what happens when they go out: get drunk, dance, flirt and make out. It's not like I'm against it, it's more like guys take advantage of her and I get extremely jealous and protective. Even when my friends talk about sexual relations and relationships, if it comes to her, I just can't take it and leave because I get very jealous.
Being with friends while she's around you is great. Just focus on your friends and you'll do fine.
Good luck. =)
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My friends never tell me that kind of stuff........
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T_T
This is why I have so much trouble, my friends don't give me a chance to talk about it >:(
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Tass:
I'm not going to lie, it wasn't easy to ignore my feelings for that special person. The first days of my strategy I ended up messing it up because I couldn't follow it 100%. I always ended up staring and talking. But I didn't give up and everyday I try to follow it. Sometimes I can't help staring and talking but the thing is that I don't get depressed because of it. I even talk to myself "Damn Cata! Stop! Wake up! She's not for you!"
Please, don't avoid her. If you do everything to avoid her, you'll be thinking about her all the time, which won't help forgetting her. You can avoid seeing them together romantically but you should not avoid her.
When they are being romantic with eachother near you and you have no friends that you can focus on, just leave and take a walk. And if you can't leave or focus on your friends, well... Be strong.
I'm a jealous person and I can't stand imagining someone getting together with my crush. I hate it when my friends talk about what happens when they go out: get drunk, dance, flirt and make out. It's not like I'm against it, it's more like guys take advantage of her and I get extremely jealous and protective. Even when my friends talk about sexual relations and relationships, if it comes to her, I just can't take it and leave because I get very jealous.
Being with friends while she's around you is great. Just focus on your friends and you'll do fine.
Good luck. =)
thz again cata ^^ I really appreciate your support... but anyway I'm an "incurable romantic"! ^^
I just can't live with the idea of "defeat" saying "it's impossible! forget about it!". When the situation is disperate even being a very pessimistic person I never give up (that's strange I know... but the only "pessimistic" thing I do is complaining and saying "damn... it's over! no chances to do it!" but I NEVER give up, NEVER!)... so I still have some hope ^^... maybe not this year... but in the future, when her boyfriend is away for the university... who knows? maybe his boyfriend finds another girl at the university campus... humm I'm acting to much like a jinx right? Maybe...
But the most important thing is... (as I said) it's not really important to get engaged with her... she is kind with me and she "care" about me... I like her attitude towards me... I like spending time with her (even with other of our friends are around)... the only problem is (poor devil..) his boyfriend, it's not his fault.. it's just... I feel "oppressed" in a sort of way... I feel like being watched by an examinator during a test, I can't touch her in any way (... actualy I have never touched her but physical contact is important to comunicate sometime... and girls are easy with physical contact... like hugs or that sort of things), I can't watch her beautiful eyes because I feel like I'm doing something "wrong", that her boyfriend don't like...
Poor Paolo (name of Glenda's boyfriend) he's a good person, not a heartless bastard who usually have extraordinary girlfriend and he don't care about her... He's not even a "cool" guy, he is a bit nerdish... but still he is a good person... ehhh life is very compicated :(
I have to "survive" till sunday, "the big day" when we go to the birthday party, if I survive to the party, it's over!
My friends never tell me that kind of stuff........
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T_T
This is why I have so much trouble, my friends don't give me a chance to talk about it >:(
Err... about what? about sex? :\.... well that's good, if your friends are talking about sex when you're around... my boy you're in a big trouble XD
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I meant relationships in general...
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Guess that girls' conversations are too different than boys'. xD
Don't worry Neo, we're for you. ;)
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well Neo, boys rarely talk about relationship with girls.
If boys don't have a girlfriend, they don't talk about girls because they are sad about not having a girlfriend or they simply don't care.... if boys have a girlfriend, they don't talk about girls because they are "ok" and they simply don't care XD
When boys talks about girls is only to say "Hey, look at that chick!" and nothing more... well that's "normal" I think.
Boys are more in general less sensitive than females... they don't usually express their feeling with other boys, friends are people who you can have fun and go out... but when you have to talk about "serious" things you can't just say "let's talk about girls... I mean the reason why we haven't got girlfriends and bla bla bla"... that's impossible, you have to pick ONE of your friend (the one you trust most and the most "sensitive" in general) and ask for his help, you can now have a "serious" talk.
"in summa", this kind of conversation is not for "everyday's life"... you have to be in a small group of person or even alone with someone you trust a lot and so you can have this kind of serious talk.. when you are in a group of friends (and the aim of the group is having fun) you can't come out with this kind of conversation!
Talk to a small group of person (when the time is right, you can start this kind of conversation.... you can't just summon 3 of your friends and say "talk about relationship with girls"), or to a close friend of yours or (even better) a girl... girls are more used in having relationship with the other sex and surely they know what girls think (at least... they should).
BTW, we are a small group of person who came up with this kind of conversation so... let's talk ^^.
About my situation... well yesterday wasn't soo good... she logged on msn.. said "hi" and asked me to tell me about what happened to me that day and she tried to start a conversation (well.. that's good, I resisted the tentation to say "hi" when she logged on and after she said hi I resisted to start a conversation.. I let her start)... but in the middle of the conversation she logged off without saying anything (maybe the internet connection problems?) and no sms at all... I haven't seen her today (well.. that's not true, I saw her at the beginning of the 1 period but she didn't see me... and tomorrow she have a math test (math test on saturday?... really unluckly) and I know that friday is really a heavy day for her (come home at 18:00)... I'm sure I won't see her on msn and no sms today.
That's not good because she and her boyfriend own me the money for the present of that friend we have in common (7,30 € each!)...
Usually I'm not really interested in money.... well at least I was... some time ago I was well known to make wonderful birthday present... but after that bad experience... I'm not the same anymore.
When they say "ok I'll give you the money tomorrow" and I reply "no problem, you can give me when you want" that's because it's a friend, I don't care... well you at least expect to have the money back in little time... but NO... if they are 10-20 € it's "ok".. they are friends... you can live without 10 €.... but when the debt is higher like 100 €.... well you start to get a little mad if their name is on the birthday present too! (I mean.. I spend ALL the money to buy a present for a friend... i write the name of who are making this present expecting to "see" the money but NO!.... that's really annoying when they get even all the credit from the person who recive the present while I get just a "thz..." like I'm an idiot who gave only 5 € to partecipate with the present without knowing what is it!!!).
Lol.. ok a bit OT.. but that's all... I think I'm being a little "rude" in this time trying to avoid her and her conversation... while when I'm in front of her I'm really friendly (usually I'm really friendly with any person)... I think she noticed that and she is starting to think "well.. maybe he is just an acquaintance..." I hope is not like that... (that's what I mean when I say I'm a pessimistic person... I always immagine the worst possible possibility XD)
I know I said I wanted to pull her out from my life... but I just can't, not like that and not right now at least...
Well tomorrow is her boyfriend birthday, so I just can't see her or try to have a conversation... and sunday is "the great day".. after that everything will be easier...
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..... What are you planning to do, dude? U keep bringing up "the great day" and I know what it's supposed to be but what r u planning to do then?
Not to be pushy, but my "great day" was the Grad Banquet, it was also the day of confession
So yeah... I'm starting to get suspicious... o.0?
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When my last crush got a boyfriend, I still loved her and it helped me get her out of my mind because I don't want to get trouble and I guess it was my wake up call.
Right now, I'm on a different situation but it's even harder because I keep getting mixed signals. My crush (let's call her Jane) is open-minded and we talk a lot about many subjects mostly about love, relationships, clubs, boys, homosexuality, jobs, me, her, teachers, classes, news, religion etc. She accepts me and cares a lot about me. We argue a lot but we both know that we love each other (in a friendly way).
I remember that one day Jane said that she wanted to know more and more about me because I'm so different than everyone else and that she never met anyone like me. When I told Jane I'm bi, a friend of mine convinced me (I don't even know how she convinced me) to ask her if she ever felt something for girls before. Jane said no but she wanted to try in the future. This made me daydream. A lot. I still do.
Sometimes it seems to me that she's flirting with me and teasing me. I don't know if I'm seeing what I want to see or if I'm reading her signals right.
I know for a fact that she kissed one friend of ours (female and this friend already knew I like Jane) and it really hurt me because I felt like betrayed from our friend. Being jealous didn't help either. By the way, this friend is bisexual aswell.
Maybe I'm weird but I would never make out or flirt or whatever with someone who's in a relationship or if someone I care about is in love with that person. It's just the way I am, I'm very loyal and respectful.
Sometimes this bisexual friend flirts with Jane and I get extremelly jealous, which makes me go away, which makes Jane angry at me, which makes us argue.
Just to give you an example of this friend's flirting:
Friend (grabbing Jane's chin): I just wanna kiss that mouth!
And then guys come in the picture, too. When Jane and our friends go out, all of them get drunk, they lose control of things, make out with people they have never seen before and in the next day, they don't remember anything.
Maybe I'm just too crazy, weird and jealous. =\
But like, I'm not going to plan, I'm not going to imagine things, I'll just go with the flow because that's the best thing I can do. =)
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..... What are you planning to do, dude? U keep bringing up "the great day" and I know what it's supposed to be but what r u planning to do then?
Not to be pushy, but my "great day" was the Grad Banquet, it was also the day of confession
So yeah... I'm starting to get suspicious... o.0?
suspicious? nooo!! you got it all wrong XD
I mean the great day because we are there together (Me, Glenda and Paolo) at this party... and if I'm able to "control" myself, don't do anything stupid and just enjoy the party without getting mad about those two... Everything else will be easier!
I'm not planning to do anything... in fact i'm planning to do nothing! It's hard to be in the same corridor of those two for just a minute, imagine how bad is to be with them for an entire day!
I'm just hoping that I can control myself and not show my feelings for her soo easly. If her boyfriends become suspicious (or worse if she become suspicious) about me, is not going to be fun :\
Humm about your great day... humm day of confession?... what is that?... ahhhh now I remember, that catholic ritual right?... humm here in italy we are catholics too but... is not all that important here... ok is the "first confession" but is only an ordinary day ^^.
Now about cata post:
That's it... I'm in this terrible situation too.. I like her, but she is engaged with this boy who is a friend of one of my waterpolo mates...
He is a good guy and I think they love each other... but... well, It's just that I really like her... actually I don't care if she falls in love with me (well.. I care but not THAT much). She is very friendly with me and I REALLY appreciate that... that's enought for me right now, the only problem is that we don't see each other very ofter (only by some occasional sms and msn conversation... we went out only once and we were at dinner with other people from our school) and that makes me sad... I preefer RL contact, not internet chat and things like that. Ok when you can't be with a person they are great, but not as being flash and bones in front of a person.
Seeing her with her boyfriend makes me sad... ok, maybe I feel a little jelous, but I think that all that saddness came from a bad previous experience:
A lot of time ago, I met a kind girl, we had a lot in common, she was a little tomboy and her hobbies were a lot similiar to mine.
Then I made her met a friend of mine (actually an EX friend)... then we started to go out togheter. At first we had a lot of fun, but then this friend of mine "fallen in love" with her. She had a boyfriend and she said no to the "avances" of this friend of mine... but they were flirting all the time!!! With ME in front of them!
It was REALLY annoying... like if you are going out with a young couple... they keep kissing and flirting... you are like an ornament!!
Then after some deceiving words from this girl (like: "your eyes are beautiful, I never realized it!" or "you are the best person I met in my life!" or "if I have to choose my next boyfriend from you and your friend, you are my first choice!".... come on HOW can you tell such thing to a boy who has never had a girlfriend in his life and you pass most of your time with him?) I tought she was loving me... but I was wrong! she was just a little B***!
Now I think that seeing Glenda and Paolo together makes me remind (unconsciously) that horrible period of my life... It's all different I know but... just seeing them holding each other hands makes me at the same time sad and furious!
BTW after "the bad experience" I learned a lot... I used to be very impulsive... I'm yet impulsive but less then before. My only aim right now is to "control" myself. I'm not planning anything for the future at the moment, no evil plain to "steal" the girl (never done something like that and I think I'll never do it) and nothing like that. I'm just hoping that something luckly happens to me... but my hopes are really humble like a chance to spent some time with Glenda (even with other person... but not her boyfriend, It's impossible to spent time with a girl when her boyfriend is around) or more physical contact with her (friendly hug and stuff like that) that means there's a possibility afterall (actually she just put her head on my shoulder once and we kissed each other on the cheeks to say goodbye, that kind of greeting is very common here in italy), I'm not hoping impossible thing like the sudden disappearing of Paolo, don't worry ;)
So, don't worry, I'm not planning to do anything bad ;D
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catholic ritual? I never said anything about that... I meant confessed to her
Also, if you really don't wanna say anything you need to remember this:
the mind has two halves, right and left. The left makes most of the decisions and such and is basically your main consciousness, ie when you speak, its ur left brain that is controlling. The right brain will likely try to influence you into doing unethical things or things u don't want to do. Temptation and such is in the right brain. Try to focus without letting your right brain get to you.
I don't think I've said much about my situation for a while so here's my way of catching up:
Not only is this person (I'm gonna keep her name private out of respect) my first... interest? Far be it to call it a crush... cause I've felt like this for 7 years!
hmm... maybe 8 years, I'm debating whether to count the past year or not. Anyways, I don't think I can call her a crush ^_^'
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I just say my crush is a crush because what else can I say? Love of my life? Person that I'm in love with? Better-half?
Well actually, I'm not in love with her... yet. I'm falling in love with her. I can't take her out of my mind but it's not like the other two people I liked before. The feelings I had for both of them were very intense. The feelings I have for this girl are strong but not as strong as those I had before for other people.
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I wonder what happen to Tass... LoL
You guys are taking this to seriously... It's almost anime like relations... XD
Love is... like taking a bus... you may miss the first one but there's always another one that comes after... and so on... You don't need to run after it... just wait and you will get your ride to Love City... XD
In 25 years I only remember 3 girlfriends... 2 of them are still on my heart and I regret the end of the relation... and the other one I just remember her because it was realy recent... LoL
And if a girl I like already has a boyfriend it doesn't mean anything to me... I just take my time being friends with her... spend so much time with her... that in the end she spends more time with me than with the actual boyfriend... and its done... she ends everything with the other guy and I get the girl... It's not easy... but I'm a pro at this... XD
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So that's why girls sometimes complain about boyfriends not giving them enough attention...
Guy: "But you were spending all your time with that guy..."
Girl: "No excuses." *ditched*
I blame Falling. xD
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My person just msn'd me while I was at school (1:30) and I got back to see it at 6:48... should I just leave it?
It's rather tempting to start a conversation...
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I lol at Falling! Falling, you should respect other people's feelings. Like someone is happy with someone, why would you ruin what they have?
That's pretty mean!
UruseiNeo:
You could text her: "Sorry for taking too long to answer. I only saw your text message now." And then say what you feel like saying and ask such things such "what's up?".
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I actually did end up going "I was at school" but she was already offline XD It WAS 5 hours after her initial message.
Usually she only messages me when there's no one else to talk to, but even then she seems to have a conversation ready, lol
"Hiiiiii"
"Haven't talked to you in a while"
"So you're taking (course)"
"How's that going?"
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Here I'm... I'm back!
Well these days were HELL... Only studying and nothing else!
BTW let's summarize what happened to me...
Let's start from sunday.
I woke up and... it.. was.... raining :\
The birthday party is delayed to the next sunday... damn... anyway a few hours later she sent me an sms saying something like that "It seems that the party is dalayed! Rainy days on sunday! it's just perfect!"
I answered to her sms until she stopped the conversation (in fact the conversation was over... we talked about how much food I bought for the party... and how delicious it was and about food in general XD... even if we are very thin and we don't eat so much).
So I haven't seen her for the rest of the week (and she and his boyfriend dind't give me the money for the present... hummm I HOPE they are gonna give me them soon, or sunday or else I'm gonna get a little angry, I don't like to be treated like a fool).
BTW yesterday she was on msn... I thought she was going to start a conversation with me but she didn't.
I waited about half an hour and I tought "well... maybe for THIS time and only for this time, I should start the conversation... I tried to avoid her at all cost this week and when we had a conversation I just answered to her... maybe she think that I don't like her conversation and stuff.. well only for this time I can do it.. but I haven't to get used to do it!"...
So I started with "hi" in a very friendly way we use here in italy... and then she started "OH HIIIII!!!!! How are you? are you fine? Such a long time! I'm studying all the time and I don't have time to do anything else!!! I think you have my same problem :P... BTW I was searching something on the internet but I'm too bored right now, let's have a talk!"
and I "Eh..? O_o too much information! calm down! there's not need to be in such a hurry! asd" and then we talked about some photos we took in Austria...
Me "I saw some of the photo we took in Austria... lol some photo of yours are worthy of blackmailing :P"
She "What? Well thank you for telling me I'm ugly in photo's!"
Me "Ehehe... judge by yourself... here" *I pass her the photos*
She "OH GOD... you are right! I'm horrible here!"
Me "yeah, you look like you are becoming Hulk :P"
She "noughty!"
Me "Don't worry, in the other ones you are adorable. BTW I found those photo on facebook... they are not mine! they are of one of my class mates"
She ":("
Me "don't worry, if is such a big problem you can ask him to remove them"
She "Ahhh.. I don't mind... anyway thz for the chat but I have to go, see yaa *kiss*"
Me "bye bye!"
The conversation was something like that.
We talked about something elese but it wasn't important (like... she was telling me how evil is her math teacher and stuff about school)
Well I was really happy after the conversation... but soon the feelling of missing her will overtake me :\ anyway, I'm going to see her on sunday at the party (with her boyfriend... doh!) and Monday because I'm an actor in the school theatre company and she is going to see us on monday show (the "big night")... I hope she rest with me and some her class mates to have a drink after the show, it's a tradition! :\ ... ok it's not but yet I'm going to invite her as a friend (the last year we invited a lot of non-actor to have a drink with us after the show)... But is going to be monday anyway and the day after we have to go to school and she live far from the city... well... hope dies last... and is first to be resurrected from the ashes! (if everything goes wrong :P)
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You know... Now that I think about it, I was in a bad mood when I got home yesterday... (The following story needs no discussion)
Film Arts: Game- three people go up and tell a story. One person starts and when the teacher points to a different person, that person continues the story.
My turn + girl and immature/annoying guy:
Me: Once upon a time there was a boy named Hiten and he had very special powers. He could fly and breathe fire --
girl: In fact, he accidentally burned an entire village and---
guy: ... and... (my name) was there... and he was slow and... tubby...
At that point I stared at him... then I walked back to my seat. (This was funny cause now everyone kinda got mad at him). Then the teacher fake slapped him twice XD
Anyways, I was still thinking about the entire drive home (over an hour 0.0) and I wanted to get a slurpee cause its freaking hot right now. So I go to 7Eleven... they dont have ANY flavor that I like T_T so waste of time. I also wanted to watch shows with my mom when we got back (cause that's what we usually do) but she was on the phone for 2 hours :(
If that wasn't all... one of my current favorite songs got stalled right in the middle as I was playing it in the car on the ride home. That car's player suks so if I wanna hear it I gotta start it from the beginning of the disc. It probably would stall again anyway though.
All this, then I see the msn message and suddenly I forgot all that other stuff ^_^
I still don't want to get too involved with her anymore, but damn she sure can cheer me up, and all she really did was say hi 0.0
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Are you serious (about that annoying guy)? Dude, I would freaking knock him out!!!
Well... it's not what mods or people should do but man... it's just who I am! Dude what happened after he said that? I mean during break and stuff.
I swear I would freaking make fun of him and if he pissed me even more off, I would punch and kick him until someone could grab me!
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it was the end of class, and I think he suffered enough XD
shunned by the class and (acting) slapped by the teacher XD
It was nice though, cause after that, we started rapping up class (I only did the opening line of the game XD)
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So that's why girls sometimes complain about boyfriends not giving them enough attention...
Guy: "But you were spending all your time with that guy..."
Girl: "No excuses." *ditched*
I blame Falling. xD
I lol at Falling! Falling, you should respect other people's feelings. Like someone is happy with someone, why would you ruin what they have?
That's pretty mean!
Hey... don't blame me... I'm not mean... I'm a very gentle and sweet person the only reason I do this is because I see there's hope for me and none for the other guy. And its not like I force them into going with me or hanging out with me...
Don't you guys watch TV?
If you can't find the courage to tell your crush that you love her/him you may end up permanently being labeled the best friend...
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I can't tell her I love her!
If she freaks out:
- I lose her friendship;
- She might tell someone that tells someone that tells someone, and so on, which means I'll earn a new reputation "the lezbo" or something like that.
- If "lezbo" is my new reputation, people might run away from me or bully me again. I may even get in trouble because of teachers.
- I can't think of anything else to write here... xD
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In the interest of that person from class, I have two hoedown verses. The later is for the film arts guy, the first is someone from my first college:
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I dedicate this song to my foe
btw, I'm christian, I bet you didn't know
I know one person who's going straight to hell
His first name is Lucas, and his last name is Cawkell!
2
I had a frightening experience at the zoo.
A monkey attacked me, I didn't know what to do!
It was really wild, and immature, so
I realized that it wasn't a monkey, it was just Kung Ho
It was just Kung Ho!
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Sometimes I make rap songs about my life. I made some songs about some people that I don't really like, too. xD
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I can't tell her I love her!
If she freaks out:
- I lose her friendship;
- She might tell someone that tells someone that tells someone, and so on, which means I'll earn a new reputation "the lezbo" or something like that.
- If "lezbo" is my new reputation, people might run away from me or bully me again. I may even get in trouble because of teachers.
- I can't think of anything else to write here... xD
LoL... Ok... That really makes it harder... XD
But... Gay/Lezbo is the new black... ;D
People will end up accepting it... sooner or later... but it will probably be later... much later... XD
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Tell me about it, Falling... x_X
Like today one kid said on my school's radio:
AHAHAHAHAHAH "Rui" is gay!
And I said: "So what? I'm too!"
Friend: You are?
Me: No, I'm bi. But I wouldn't mind saying I'm gay just to shut that kid up! xD
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I actually remembered something funny on House. The female doctor is also bi but she is dating the black doctor.
When one of House's old team members is having a bachelor party, he sends the two of them to go look for a stripper... together XD
So they cut to the scene of the two of them at a strip club XD
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Hmm... That the perfect love relation... at least the guy can experience a threesome... without any problems... XD
Edit: It's suposed to be a silent "h" ;D
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a TREESOME?
Sounds... different... probably painful and the bugs would be annoying...
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It's all about the bugs... you, your girlfriend... and a tree... that's a treesome...
Now you know... XD
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Have you ever had a treesome 0.0?
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Treesome? yeah... a few times... even if they prefer a carsome or a bedsome... XD
Threesome... now that's something I only dream about... preferably with twins... ;D
But these would be nice too... XD
(http://accel6.mettre-put-idata.over-blog.com/300x225/0/19/69/26/Exemple/hentai10.jpg)
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You know what's ironic? I'm bi right? Which means I go to both sides. The thing is, I would NEVER be in a threesome. I'm just too "loyal" for that. But I don't blame anyone that does/like threesomes. I mean, do what you want, it's your life, you know? =)
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That's why I prefer twins for a threesome... I will always be loyal... If I can figure out who is who... XD
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I have decided to revive this topic due to a recent... due to a development in my life. Fair warning, this story is lengthy but I think some may be able to enjoy reading it in some sense. I will try to break it up for convenience. This story starts back in May. The reason I am writing this is because I feel I may go insane if I don't get some other opinions soon. I'm not good at reading people and I have until December 21st to get my head straight on this.
May 8th (Saturday, roughly 3:00pm)
At this point in time, me and my cousin had been shopping at an anime store, SakMe (code name :p). My cousin is female and in her thirties, btw, but she's a well developed anime fan. Our visits to SakMe weren't very frequent, the last one being in March, I believe.
Now... at some point during our visit, while my cousin was looking at a different section of the store, I was checking out the new releases at the front of the store. Then one of the female employees at the store came up and asked me if I needed help with anything (as they always do, right?). And as -I- always do: I said "No thankyou, just looking at the new releases," waited a few moments and then walked over to join my cousin. (I'm socially awkward...)
Seconds later, maybe a minute, the same girl approaches us and hands me "Gintama" vol 1, telling me that I might like this one. Based on the way she was describing it, I can imagine she had actually watched it before. I thought nothing much of this. I ended up buying that DVD and also one other, "Hayate the Combat Butler" vol 1 which she also recommended (this time because we were running late and I asked her to pick something for me again).
We leave the store, first thing my cousin says what that the girl was flirting with me o.o and that she felt bad for her because "I was ignoring her" though the truth is I really had no idea, or the thought hadn't entered my mind.
So this is how this whole story began, a short comment from my cousin... to this day I still don't know whether she was right or not. I have NEVER had anyone approach me a second time after telling them that I didn't need their help. You tell me, is this at all common? One argument would be that she was finding an excuse to talk to me (a friend's words, not mine). She could have also simply could have been trying to sell me stuff, though technically she wasn't the one at the cash register when I bought the DVDs (btw, it is thanks to MAL's records of episode watching that I can pinpoint the exact days this and the following events took place).
May 22nd (Saturday, 3:00pm)
This is two weeks later. I didn't have school because my semester ended in April, so our visits would get much more frequent. We get to the store, and naturally I'm interested to see her again due to my cousin's comment (which, btw, I replied with silence XD).
We ran into her. She immediately recognized us. (Which I won't take too much to consideration, though I am not totally good with faces... though I guess I DID recognize HER so...) I ended up getting the 2nd volume of "Hayate the Combat Butler" and a DVD that she recommended last time but I didn't get, "Sgt. Frog"
I guess this day wasn't too eventful. Though it's also not like she didn't talk to us (hell I don't remember much about that day). My faith in my cousin drew empty when she claimed, afterwards, that now the girl was "flirting" with my, again female, cousin... Just one example of the many to come similar comments that crushed my faith.
IMO, Talking =/= Flirting (hoping you get that =/= means "does not equal")
At this point in writing my story, I have to leave for work. Please tell me what you think so far. The days to come shouldn't be as lengthy as the first day.
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I'll wait for the rest... don't want to give any bad advice... and usually they are... XD
But according to my research when a girl recomends you watch/buy Sgt. Frog... that means she wants to use your house as a base... meaning... she want's to marry you... or not... :P
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I'm back, to continue my story.
May 30, SUNDAY, 3:00pm
She wasn't there. I bought Volume 3 of Hayate the Combat Butler and also the 2nd half of Sgt Frog's first season.
June 6, SUNDAY, 3:00pm
Not there. (Btw, at this point in time I'm not all that obsessed, just interested due to my cousin's comment). I bought the 4th volume of Hayate the Combat Butler (they only had up to 4 at this time therefore I couldn't buy anymore) and also Slayers Evolution-R.
Why was she not there? Cause for the past two visits, we went to SakMe on a SUNDAY instead of a SATURDAY. o.o
So apparently her schedule includes working every Saturday (starting at 3pm) which I noticed immediately.
June 26, Saturday
It's been well over a month since I last saw her. Plus we only met twice. She probably wouldn't remember us. Wrong, she found us (or we found her, I forget). Her hair was long this time though (I say this because she and my cousin ended up having a conversation about it, to some point where one of the two said I must be bored). She also said "I officially know you guys now" seeing as how this was our third meeting. Friendship established, hurray...
She said she "knew" I was the one buying out "Hayate the Combat Butler" volumes. How could she possibly know that? It's not like my name or anything gets recorded and even if it did, that would mean she went out of her way to check the receipts/records. Obviously she didn't KNOW it was me, she assumed it was me. Does that hold any meaning? I have no idea, I feel like it should for some reason but can't really say how.
I bought Sgt Frog part 3 and another DVD she recommended: Kujibiki Unbalance.
Btw, at this point she's pretty much become the person I go to for buying DVDs, like a personal finder.
July 3, Saturday
This time, my cousin didn't come with me, but my friend (who co-hosts Hyaku Anime Laws) did. I realized that I didn't actually know her name. So I took the liberty of looking at her name tag :D. Or what I thought was her name tag... Odds that the first time I bother to check her name tag is the time she accidentally grabs the wrong uniform and therefore wrong name tag?
Bought the last part to Sgt Frog that is currently available and... yes another anime she recommended, Mushishi. She actually got "Maria Holic" first (why? ... ) but I had already seen it (Like I knew what it was about -_-)
There's a little more on this day. Because Hayate was out, she told me I should preorder for the next 2 volumes (and also another anime whose second season was out but first season wasn't, again her recommendation). Now... to preorder she needs my name... so I'm thinking that may have been a trick to learn my name. I probably would have done the same thing XD It probably wasn't a trick, but worth noting nonetheless.
July 17
Two weeks pass. This was when we found out that her name tag was wrong last week. So we learned her real name which is... Vendor-Hime-Sama!!! (for the purpose of this topic :p)
Actually I don't think much happened this day... bought "Fantastic Children" (my pick) and "Best Student Council" (Her pick)
July 31
I consider this to be an important date. Regular stuff happened, bought "Black Cat" and "The Girl who Leapt Through Time" (both Vendor-Hime-Sama's pick).
Towards the end, we were talking about the upcoming convention in two weeks. She told us that she was going to be helping her friend in the vendor section and she invited us to come see her! As I write this, I remember her saying something like "I'll see you at the convention" at the end and am now realizing... how does she know I'm not going to SakMe again before two weeks? Did she learn my pattern? I had been going at a steady rate of every second saturday...
over the next two weeks, I was navigating through the AE 2010 website, trying to figure out where the damn vendor section was supposed to be. Upon finding it, I had no way of knowing which stall she'd be at because the listed name would be her friend's name. So... I guessed the name she accidentally switched tags with and (for fate's sake!) that was the stall number!!!
I'm going to take another break now. Only 3 other days remain and they are BIG ones.
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I'll wait for the rest... don't want to give any bad advice... and usually they are... XD
But according to my research when a girl recomends you watch/buy Sgt. Frog... that means she wants to use your house as a base... meaning... she want's to marry you... or not... :P
Lol, I don't know about that kind of thing but she describe Sgt Frog as "It's gross but funny"
gross why? o.o
Although maybe I misunderstood her. She's asian, has an accent and while I don't have any thing against accents, I do feel a little embarrassed, myself, if I have to ask someone to repeat themselves more than once -.-
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August 13-15th
The AE 2010 convention lasted 3 days, I went during all three and also visited Vendor-Hime-Sama each day (sometimes more than once). Mike joined me for all three days and my cousin for the last two of three.
She ended up (to the best of my knowledge) working at the vendor section with her friend the whole time so I don't think she went to any events :\
The first two days, Mike and my cousin joined me in visiting her too, of course. But the 3rd day we had split up for stuff and I visited her alone. Surprisingly, this was the only time she decided to actually leave her stall for a break. She wanted to go find where the Cosplay Chess was going to be held so she went towards the back of the building (technically she just got up from her stall and left towards there, without actually asking me to go too, but I followed anyway cause I had nothing to do at the moment and I actually knew where Cosplay Chess was).
We go outside, via back of building and she couldn't seem to figure out which building it was it. Btw, Mike was actually IN Cosplay Chess, which was where he was at the moment, so I knew which building it was. I took out my map to show her too. Despite being initially interested in Cosplay Chess, she said it was too far to go so we went back... Also took some pictures with other cosplayers (Gt. Saiyaman and Saiyawoman :D ). Btw, she didn't cosplay. I did :D
That sums up my visit with her over the Convention. Officially first time being alone with Vendor-Hime-Sama.
A little more though. Me and my cousin were waiting in the car for Mike (let's not get into his dragging on :p). Can't remember how we got to this but she ask me if I liked Vendor-Hime-Sama. I reply with... "Like as?" cause I literally had no idea what to do. Couldn't have said better words XD for her reply was "like like". I need to explain. We had just recently been at the AMV with one of the AMVs being: [Another Anime Con 2009] Haunter103 - Creative Black Space (HD) (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=53ns0QdpZPw#ws)
So the phrase "like like" just kind of brought us back to that AMV and distracted us to no end.
However... just as this WHOLE THING began... my cousin provided a comment that started ANOTHER chain of actions.
Over the next week to two weeks, I began to actually consider, for the first time, asking her out. Let's be fair here. Whether Vendor-Hime-Sama actually liked me or not at that point wasn't the relevance, if my cousin figured out I liked her, then it was very likely that SHE figured it out as well.
So I decided the next time I go to SakMe, I would ask her out (two weeks after the convention). Btw, I bought Fate/Stay Night at the con.
Now I know what you're thinking... "UruseiNeo, if you already asked her out 3 months ago, why are you bothering with all this?"
Why indeed... I was prepared for rejection at the time (I'm not anymore........ f***) but I wasn't prepared for the reality of her reply...
August 28
I had worked up the courage I needed. Thought about the words over and over to use. Also ran through my head different versions of how the conversation could go. I waited until I got my DVDs picked out so that if it went bad, I could get out more quickly. My cousin was there for support, I told her I was gonna do this literally 5 minutes before walking in the store. Her support included... Saying "What if she's with that person!" pointing to her talking to... another girl... Next my cousin said "Ow, why did you kick me?"
Picked out Black Blood Brothers and... Hayate the Combat Butler vol 6 (vol 5 WASN'T there yet???) and then waited until my cousin went to look at other stuff so I could talk to Vendor-Hime-Sama alone.
Everything was ready, so I went for it and used the words: "I was wondering if maybe you and I could go out some time"
Son of a b****... What the hell was I thinking... it was AUGUST 28TH... I should have seen this coming but didn't.
She said she was going to a different city in a week for the school semester. Just when I thought I was prepared, fate slaps my face. For what it's worth she said she felt bad, which made me feel better.
She didn't say yes... she didn't say NO either... I still have no clear idea of what she's thinking!!! She said she had planned to say goodbye to me and my cousin today (confirming that she KNOWS we always go every other saturday...) and she wanted to added each other on Facebook.
Through all this I learned that she is in her 2nd year of college/university which means that she is very close to my age. She could be younger or at most 1 or 2 years older. This is exactly the age range I wanted, as pointed out in another topic which I forgot... Beyond that, and her Chinese name (as opposed to the English equivalent learned with the name tags) I don't know much about her 0.0
She gave me and my cousin a hug too before we left.
There's one more thing that happened before she left for the other city. With facebook, I found out she was taking Japanese level 1 in the following semester. I took that course during my first year and still had the textbook. I lent her the textbook, meeting her briefly on a Tuesday at about 2:10pm. And also buying the last DVD she recommended to me, Honey and Clover.
So that's my story... there's a little aftermath over facebook but I won't get into that right now...
November is ending soon. Once the school semester ends, she's coming back. I need to know what to do... I feel convinced that she likes me but I keep doubting myself and end up breaking down. If I don't get a clear idea in my head soon, I'll go insane T_T
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I think you just need to find a way to talk to her in a place that is not her work place... then you should talk about things that she did in college, what she likes (guess you can see that in her Facebook profile) and talk about it... then you need to see what type of girl she is. If she feels more comfortable going out in group... or just the 2 of you.
I'll tell you something... don't bring up anime/manga related stuff... unless she's the one that brings it up.
Btw, you are the fantastic Quiz Guru this should be easy for you... sunglasses is always something you can use to make you more comfortable... but only use them if you're standing outside and its not raining... ;D
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Given the season, I doubt my QuizGlasses are gonna be much help XD. I do have a Hollow Mask though that she found funny, but I doubt I'm gonna use that either.
Her facebook doesn't say much. a lot of her comments are in chinese so I don't know what's going on.
Kinda hard to talk to her other than at SakMe, I don't exactly know my way around the area (that mall is about a 30 minute drive).
Unless she misunderstood me when I asked her out, she must know that I like her. So if she had no intention of going out with me... why wouldn't she just decline in the first place? Is there even a reason for that? But then she doesn't actually comment on anything on my facebook (then again, she doesn't seem to post on other people's walls much anyway, I don't think).
3 months passed so I don't remember her personality much, so it's hard to really tell now whether she actually liked me, which is what I need to know -_-
FRUSTRATION OVERLOAD
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Maybe you should just talk to her whenever possible? Or maybe not being able to talk to her that much means you might have to meet some new people.
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Or maybe not being able to talk to her that much means you might have to meet some new people.
Don't wanna -.-
(Give up after all this? You're crazy ;p)
I tried starting a convo using Facebook's chat once, after her second comment she went offline o.o
Either that or my internet connection did something (I was underground) either way I was unlucky.
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Don't get your hopes up on internet "friends".
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What does that mean? o.o
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First of all, writting is really insecure. What does this mean? It means that we're never sure how that person meant what he/she said. Is he/she serious, being ironic, joking around, unsure?
Second of all, you never know who you're talking to, online.
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I met this person in real life, not over the internet o.o
Although I think that insecurity part is why I try not to talk to her too much over facebook, and possibly why she doesn't say anything to me either.
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I misunderstood what you said. Sorry.
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It's okay, the recent comments were about facebook so it seems easy to get confused.
Hmm.... Less than a month left...
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I've basically got two weeks left but none of you have really given me an answer. I think maybe I asked the wrong way, I'm not looking for advice on how to approach her, I want to know my chances that she actually LIKES me.
More recently, about one week ago, for the first time ever she actually posted on my wall/commented on my post. I was fairly surprised and we basically ended up having a wall post conversation for about 8 posts.
Also, she gave me birthday wishes a few days ago on my birthday. Actually, she was the FIRST person to give me birthday wishes 0.0 at 12:14am in the morning (why do people stay up so late, I go to bed at like... 10pm...)
I've been looking at some "tips" online and almost all of them included something like "if she laughs at your jokes." Granted my memory is a little fady now, but I'm pretty sure she laughed at a lot of the things I said... and I'm not funny... I'm sarcastic, but not a comedy genius.
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"I want to know my chances that she actually likes me"
You can either ask her or ask someone who actually knows it besides her.
One thing is giving advice on how to approach people but it's totally different when it comes to the "how do I know if she likes me?", especially when it comes to people we don't know and can't really see.
One someone drops a pen and someone else picks it up for them with a great smile, it may mean that there's some interest or that it's really good to help others. Do you get what I'm saying? It's all about interpretation, which is way more difficult in "writting". If there are no smileys, you may misunderstand irony or jokes for serious conversations. Besides, how can you transmit "I like you. A lot" online without typing "I like you" for real? Are you ready to type it? No? What if she isn't? How are you going to know, then?
Personally... tell her how you feel. Then, we'll see what happens next. If you don't say it, you'll never get the answer your looking for and you'll just keep wondering things and searching for help that no one can actually give you except yourself.
Just be ready for whatever her answer may be but don't stress too much, either.
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"Personally... tell her how you feel."
Considering I already asked her out once, she should know exactly how I feel -.-
The problem was she didn't give me an actual answer, she just said that she was leaving the following week, for college (and she is returning in about two weeks).
And it's not like I can ask her out again or tell her I like her before then, cause I would have to do it over the internet which I'm pretty sure is a really bad idea.
I feel like I'm in a no-win situation at the moment T_T
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Why is it bad online? If she says "no", wouldn't you be saving time and money on someone who doesn't care as much as you and wouldn't she save dumb excuses to not go out with you?
Well I do get why you say online is out of the question but you can ask it in a less straight forward way. If you are close, try to figure out her interest for guys.
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If it's online, just go with something like "We should have lunch when you're here" or something like that.
If she gives an early date, it may be an indication that she's interested in seeing you, but the rest you'll have to find out yourself (if it's just as a friend or more).
From that, just keep inviting her after the first "date".
Finally, don't do anything I said. xD
Although I've been told I give good relationship advices, I've been single all my life, so I'm not really sure about that... >_<
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Well, just a little while ago, I got to talk to her over facebook's messenger (it's hard to catch her when she's online).
Overall, I'm going to meet her today so she can return the text book that I lent her 4 months ago.
I'll try asking her out again but... I feel my odds aren't too great...
She sounds really busy (she wants to meet at 5:45 and then she has some christmas thing at 6:00) She's also taking 6 courses the up-coming semester 0.0
She said she might not be working at SakMe anymore, so I'm afraid this might be the last time I actually get to meet with her.
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I think you're overreacting. You guys may still meet each other after she quits her job. I'm only 3 times a year with this group of friends and we still see each other every year. =)
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Okay, so I went to the meeting spot. She was about 10 minutes late but I don't think I said anything.
She had gifts prepared for me and my cousin, in addition to the text book she had to return. Small gifts, candy for me and body/spray lotion for my cousin.
After she gave me the bag, I brought up the last time (where I asked if we could go out sometime)
She said that her "answer would be yes" :)
However, this was just before christmas so she suggested to wait until after the holidays, and once school has settled in.
So in short, I think we're going to go out, I just don't know when... or where...
I believe some schools are starting up again next week, but my classes (personally) don't started until the 10th. When should I talk to her again to schedule?
My personal schedule pretty much takes up Monday to Friday for me, unless I want to be out during the night.
Oh, and me and my cousin also need to get a gift for her before then because she got us stuff. About $20 or so, but I don't know what :S
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I think it's about time I get this off my chest.
The contents of my previous post took place on December 23rd. As I mentioned, she said she wanted to wait until school settles in, so as far as her answer went, let's call that a "Maybe"
Feel free to call me the most idiotic person on the face of the planet for this; I waited until January 29th to ask her again about going out. That was my plan, all things considered... But then I found out, through facebook no less, that she had changed her relationship status to "in a relationship" no more than a few hours before I was going to send her the message....
This is the second time my timing has been absolutely hellbent and kicking dirt in my face.
My cousin tells me that she messaged Vendor-Hime (A name I should probably stop using now). Apparently, a friend she has known for about 2.5 years asked her to be his girlfriend and she said yes. How much time took place between the question and the reply, I don't know. However, I found myself completely confused, embarrassed, and more depressed than I've ever been before.
However... me and my cousin still had a gift for her, which we bought weeks prior, that we still had to give to her since she got us Christmas gifts. ffs, I still can't understand why she would do that in the first place.... Anyways...
So I had my cousin message her, to meet with us. Me and my cousin had planned to go to SakMe anyways, so we were going to see if she wanted to meet us there to get her gift and then maybe browse with us like old times.
She replies that she'd like to go... but she wanted to know if she could bring her boyfriend...
Can I die now? I'm actually asking you -_-'''
I couldn't really say no, though... my cousin however was having a huge fit. She called it "poor taste" to invite her boyfriend. At this point... I wondered if she was even AWARE that I liked her -_-''' But hey, we got another message from her saying that her bf may not show and it would be just us 3.
That's nice right? Or maybe it was a really really really mean game because...
February 5th...
We waited for her at the entrance to SakMe... and she brought him anyway...
I kinda forgot how nice her personality was though T_T It's hard to be mad at her... Not like she really did anything wrong, right?
We had some fun, I guess. That night I sent her a messaged. First I apologized for not messaging her when I said I would, said we had fun and we would ask her again next time we decide to shop, and to enjoy the gift. She messaged back thanking us for the gifts, and apologized for getting my name wrong (she pronounced my name wrong when we met at the store), and to text her when we decide to go again.
Since then, I try to comment on her wall posts whenever necessary and such...
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That's all I got... someone turn this story into an anime plot for me.
At this point, at this current moment, I am broken.
I am getting more depressed everyday...
I want to cry, I had cried the night we last met...
I can't forget any of this, there's too much to forget...
I feel like she is either ignorant of the situation, is playing a game with me, or just doesn't see how big a deal it is (at least to me. She probably sees me more of a stranger than I thought she did)
Maybe she never actually liked me to begin with, and misunderstood that I had been trying to ask her out on a date.
Maybe she did realize but was just too nice to say no and reject me, so chose to do it in an indirect way such as getting a boyfriend.
I don't know... I wish I knew... I hoped that knowing could help me ease my pain and cope with the situation.
This could have been my only chance to start a relationship with someone... to the best of my knowledge nobody else has ever seemed to show any interest in me. The chances that I find somebody else feels so slim, so impossible, and if that's the case then what the hell am I doing here?
I can't focus...
I lay in bed thinking about all this... thinking up different explanations for how this all came to be and different scenarios of what may come...
What the hell did I do to deserve this... WHY IS THE UNIVERSE PUNISHING ME?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
The stupid thing is that I can't blame her for any of this... I can't even blame her boyfriend... because if she had chosen me instead of him, then he would be in the same situation as I am right now... I couldn't possibly wish that on another person.
I need help........
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I think you should meet new people. It was a hard thing for me to do but after some years, I decided to do it and it worked for me. It doesn't mean that you won't be able to be friends with her but it'll help you getting her out of your head. You may even find some girls to your liking that are single and interested in you.
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Uh huh... there's the problem, I wouldn't know where to look.
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Man... I was starting to get scared... I was thinking "Please don't let the last sentence be Goodbye World".
You need to talk to her, because what you're feeling right now is mental stress and anxiety because of the fact you never got the chance to talk to her properly and say what you feel about her. Even if its too late you should try opening up to her it doesn't matter anymore what she says but you will feel better.
Btw, you're young and you already giving up on love?
This could have been my only chance to start a relationship with someone... to the best of my knowledge nobody else has ever seemed to show any interest in me.
Some people may be like you... you never know what their feelings are because they never get them out of their chest.
Do you think you're the only one that was or is in this type of situation? I was... and most likely everyone that has a heart and feelings. I never quit and until I get married (jailed for life) I will keep going after girls... or guys (Hey... we never know) ;D
So... just be happy... you will never forget this completely (believe me I know) but it will be good for you next time you wont do the same mistakes.
Btw, I think your story was already made into a anime... and the guy always finds a new girlfriend... you just need to make it happen... don't wait for the others to come to you... get over your shyness... its just holding you back.
... Ok... I think I need to stop now... ;D Or else this will be a very long post :X
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I've already pointed out that I'm too stubborn to give up. I plan on living out my life and shoving my success in the universe's face. That's my solution to a "Me vs the universe" situation.
I can't talk to her. It's not fair to burden her with my stress. I mentioned that I couldn't wish my stress on another person (exampled her current bf) and so there's no way I could purposely push stress onto her.
I'm already feeling better talking about it here. To be truthful, part of the agonizing pain was thinking about every single thing I just wrote there. It's out of my head now, I can feel the same satisfaction a writer or another person with an idea in their head gets when they finally get their idea out of their head and on paper.
As for giving up... I wouldn't say I've totally quit. At this point in my life, the odds are against me. I am either at school or at work all day monday to friday. Hours between are used to eat, sleep, or preparation for course exams, quizzes and other projects. On the weekends, I need to read a number of chapters for the following week's lectures, as well as preparation for a least one major exam/project. With so much of my time used up, my social interactions boil down to the people sitting around me on the bus/sky train, my co-workers (I am the absolute youngest, so NO) and the students in my courses who are probably just as busy as me. I don't have the time.
That aside, I would also need to meet a specific kind of person. A girl, preferably asian, who is a reasonable anime fan, who is within my age group. It's hard to find girls who are into anime at all, so like I said before... the odds are pretty much against me. This will take time, but I feel that the fact I just considered "options" AS an option is a step towards relief of this stress.
What was probably eating at me the hardest was the fact that I was so close, and the universe just took the opportunity away from me and at the exact moment I was planning to make a move.
In the future, I still plan to try and be friends with her... but I don't think I will continue this for much longer. I may meet up with her one or two more times, but I plan to eventually start locking her out of my life. It should be easy, considering the fact that the only way we'd see each other in person is to plan to meet. The only communication left would be facebook, which I could simply block her from.
To be honest, I don't think she wants to be friends, or at the very least is afraid that I'm going to do something stupid because I don't want to be friends (which I believe is the reason she felt like she needed to invite her boyfriend). Unless I send her a direct message, or if other people also commented on a post, she doesn't reply to me when I comment on her posts. I think it'll be easy for her if I locked her out. She seems to have more fun conversing with my cousin than with me. I haven't made a significant influence in her life, so I don't think she'd be losing anything important. She barely knows me, I'll pretty much be a stranger to her, I feel like I already am.
With that I say.......... Goodbye World.... I will miss you all
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Okay, that was probably a cruel joke, towards FallinG_StaR, but ideas are meant to get out of the head :p
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Girls who like Anime are rare? In what universe do you live in?!?!?! They're everywhere! Not as much as "normal" girls but there are lots of them around. And if that's what you really look for in a girl, try going to Anime conventions and similar events.
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Our Anime Convention got cancelled this year -_-'''
And it's not like I can just walk up to a girl and ask if she likes anime :p
Maybe where you are, it's not rare, but here its hard to find ANYONE who watches anime.
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Girls who like Anime are rare? In what universe do you live in?!?!?! They're everywhere! Not as much as "normal" girls but there are lots of them around. And if that's what you really look for in a girl, try going to Anime conventions and similar events.
My universe is pretty close to yours and I still fail to see a lot of girls who are anime fans...
And I mean actually fans, not the people who just watch One Piece or Naruto (though not really otakus either, let's not go overboard). :P
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There, you see? Not that easy.
I mean... look at this forum... Aside from Cata, what other girls do we have? (Forgive me if I forgot someone, though I tend not to look at the gender for users)
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Where do u guys live? I live in NY and i dont think finding female anime fans is hard. Lets see my gf likes anime a bit,i have some female friends who like anime and i knew a bunch when i was in HS. But anyways urusei u should just try to find new friends like cata said. If there are billions of people on earth im sure 1 of them fit your needs but u just gotta find her.
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Most my "Anime" friends don't visit Forums like this. xD
But like seriously, if you can't find "Anime" people what the heck are you doing? xD
Do you scare people away or what? But anyways, if you can't find them, make them. I mean, present Anime to your friends and make them into it. ;)
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If there are billions of people on earth im sure 1 of them fit your needs but u just gotta find her.
Are you saying I should look in every single country??? :p
Anyways, pretty much all my friends already like anime. What made you think that -friends- was the problem? o.o
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@urusei well not that extreme but where ever u live im sure out of the thousands of people that live there... and im sure u gotten my pt by now
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Anyways, pretty much all my friends already like anime. What made you think that -friends- was the problem? o.o
I loled... ;D
That aside, I would also need to meet a specific kind of person. A girl, preferably asian, who is a reasonable anime fan, who is within my age group. It's hard to find girls who are into anime at all, so like I said before... the odds are pretty much against me.
Maybe... this may sound crazy and a bit sarcastic but... You shouldn't be that specific... I mean we're talking about love... not looking for a house to live in... if you get what I mean.
Btw, like in all dating Sims close friends are just one step away from girlfriend... having more than one increases the number of possible girlfriends... ;D
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Except that my friends amount to either
1) my cousin (the one I've referred to in previous posts)
2) Mike.... Co-host of our show
3) Mike's younger cousins. Female sure... but they are 14 or under... I know exactly what just popped into FallinG's head and NO
4) People I know from school who I don't really consider "friends" cause I don't hang out with them at all.
Anyways I don't think I was being too specific... Obvious I should be with someone my own age for one thing. I find that asians (specifically Japanese or Chinese) seem to have a tendency to like anime, but I can't know for sure.
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Hmm...
Female sure... but they are 14 or under... I know exactly what just popped into FallinG's head and NO
Am I that predictable?! XD
They will eventually turn 18... ;D
Well I'm sure some paths will cross... and you'll get your anime loving asian girl of your dreams...
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I need help again T_T
Apparently the healing capacity of expressing myself here was only one week and now I'm depressed again DX
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Hum... have you ever tried on focusing on something else? Like... a videogame or a sport? Maybe drawing or writting stuff?
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What's bugging me is that I'm stupid enough to still have a ray hope for this one person.
I'd love to confront her so she can just give me a clear "no" except that I have this strong feeling she doesn't feel comfortable talking to me or meeting me.
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@urusei well if i was you i would just pretty much go straight out and ask her since i wouldn't be able to take having such a heavy block over my shoulders for a extend period of time.
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But if she doesn't want to talk to me, I shouldn't bother her.
It's not that easy to talk to someone you barely talk to to begin with...... especially about serious matters...
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Would you prefer to hear a "NO" than to feel like you feel now? If so, just man up. If not... well then just shut up. The real problem comes after, no matter which path you choose to follow.
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I went looking around on online dating sites.
Does that make me sad or is it a good sign?
Either way... onilne sites SUCK!
...... Really hard to find one dedicated to anime fans -.-
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Does it really have to be a girl that likes anime?
I mean, it's good to have things in common but I think you need to start of with something else.
I think I never told I liked anime to my girlfriends (or girls I liked/knew)... Not because I was afraid of being judged (dumped) by them, but, only because we had so many other things in common that liking anime or not was irrelevant.
Btw... Online dating sites... not a good idea. It's full of lies, fake pictures and descriptions... at least it means you're ready to meet new people... if they like anime that is... XD
Good Luck... ;D
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It's important to me because anime tends to be a big part of my life and I need someone who can understand it.
Eventually I would have to tell the girl that I like anime and so what if she disapproved? (Maybe the evil bill will save me from that possibility by putting anime in better light XD)
Still, if that is the case and since I'm not going to change a big part of who I am just cause someone doesn't like that part of me, I just wasted a big part of my time forming a relationship that will probably go to the gutter now.
Anyways, if sites aren't the answer then I have no idea where to go T_T
The site looked comforting, you can put a lot of information about who you are and what you're looking for, the parts that I normally suck at get taken care of before even talking to the person.
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yea dude as midnight said online dating sites are trash since they are full of lies. Hell for all you know you could be chatting with a 50 YO dude or something worse. But yea why dont u do what i did with my GF? I started with another interest and THEN slowly introduced her to anime.
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well that's a fair suggestion. I like to be devious :D
Still doesn't solve my issue of actually meeting someone :p
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Take a deep breath, grow some balls and talk to her! Be friendly, smile, eye contact. Don't be a stalker. This is all you need. xD
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Talk to WHO? I haven't met anyone yet!
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Goddamnit! Aren't you in school? I'm sure there are lots of people there. Oh and make sure you don't miss a chance to meet new people. xD
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It's Final Exams and I have one exam left.
I'm done school
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You know what happens next, right? BEACH!!!!!! @_@ ATARU MODE ON! x'D
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........ Are you suggesting I should go to a beach, alone, and go up to random girls whose age could be anywhere between 20 and 29 (because my age judgement SUCKS)?
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@urusei or u could just go to the mall wit friends and if you see a girl you like go for it!*MOKKORI!!!*
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I see your problem sir. And seriously you need to get over it. Are you going to let that problem hinder you for the rest of your life?
Oh btw, the problem is obviously you're shy towards the opposite sex... deal with it... btw if you think about it wouldn't a anime loving girl be shy about telling someone else (boys) that she likes that kind of thing?
You can always try Craigslist...Here... check her out... ;D http://toronto.en.craigslist.ca/tor/w4m/2328081592.html
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No.... here's what my real problem is:
When I meet a new person (regardless of gender) I am generally really friendly. I'm not as socially awkward as I seem to lead on and I think I may use this as a defense mechanism sometimes. My problem lies that I am too friendly and end up in that area most people call "the friend zone" before I even start considering making a move.
Then the one time this DOESN'T happen, I wait too long.
Before I can really start on moving forward, I think I need to make sure I'm completely over this person. I am NOT going to confront her because I am NOT the kind of person who will make another feel awkward or guilty, (even though that's what I might want deep down. Luckily, I have desires that take priority over that one).
Instead, I will actually try to be friends. This way I can get over her without actually bothering her.
Have I made any errors in my thinking this time?
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Have I made any errors in my thinking this time?
Yes...
Before I can really start on moving forward, I think I need to make sure I'm completely over this person.
Now seriously... talk with the girl from the link I posted earlier... ;D
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Neo, don't wait for the feelings to go away. You have to kick them out and I mean it. I waited 2 and half years and when I decided to kick her out of my mind, it only lasted 3 days. Why didn't I do it sooner? Because I'm stupid, that's why. Don't do the same mistake I did.
I feel like you're coming with all these excuses in order not to move on. Also, you're so obcessed with finding a girlfriend that you may not find her because you end up being blinded by your own standards.
I'm not looking for a relationship right now because Law school eats my spare time so I don't want to waste no one's time. And I also want to focus 100% on classes. Of course that for my friends I always have time but not for boy/girlfriends. However, in a boy/girlfriend I search for sense of humor, positive attitude and kindness. I don't care about what his/her hobbies are, their favourite colour, what music they're listening to because we can share those and end up liking the same things, with time.
Like, we're young and so what if we're single? PARTY ON! ;)
Also, don't look for love. Let love find you. xD
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Did I say I was going to wait? No
I said I was going to be friends with her.
After all this I'm already feeling like I've gotten over her a lot, which is why the next step would be friends.
If I "cut her off" then that's just going to make it hundreds of times more difficult the next time I see her unexpectedly. That would be the equivalent of quitting smoking and then having a cigarette a few months later, you're just back where you started.
Instead I'm taking the approach that will allow me to see her without bothering me.
By the way... "Let love find you"? Are you serious? As if that HASN'T been my approach thus far?
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I will give you these advices, UruseiNeo, and I do apologize if they sound quite simple
Be yourself, be honest to yourself, don't become obsessive, enjoy every second of love that life gives you, respect yourself as well as other people, stop suffering because of love and start gaining power because of love, don't do drugs, eat your vegetables and always remember that friendship is a special kind of love
I wish you the best of luck
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THANKYOU, Exactly.
That was mostly what I am trying to do.
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THANKYOU, Exactly.
That was mostly what I am trying to do.
I also wish you the best of luck... you'll need it... especially when the time comes to eat your vegetables... ;D
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Hey, guess what? I can eat broccoli. I taught myself to tolerate it and now I can eat a side plate's worth and PREFER to when possible :p
So :p :p :p
Btw, that actually brings up a completely different reason why I am going to hold off looking for someone. I really would like to get in better shape, and I will pound any one of you who says something about how I shouldn't worry about how I look I AM AWARE.
But I happen to proud that watching an hours worth of anime while working on the Elliptical results in about 1000 caloires burned :D
So that's going to be my summer project. (According to my KIN class textbook, a REALISTIC goal is 10% of your current weight lost in one year. That means I should try to lose about 3% of my weight this summer.)
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It's fine to care about how you look BUT don't get obcessed with it. In fact, don't get obcessed with anything. Whether it's a girl, a game or love. Or whatever comes to your mind.
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Don't be obsessed with ANYTHING? Okay, now you're just spouting nonsense.
Don't assume obsession is a bad thing in every case :p
For example, I can be obsessed with reaching my goal of getting in shape. However, I will do so with realistic goals in mind. I know that only 3% of my weight is likely to consistently be lost over 3 to 4 months. I also know that exercise and healthy eating is NOT something you go on and off of (as the text says), I will need to continue this healthy behavior even after I've achieved my loss goal. Tell me how I could possibly accomplish this consistently without a hint of obsession?
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Common sense?
Idk... just saying... ;D
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Common sense isn't really enough :p
People don't always act on their common sense. Everyone knows that they should eat healthy but do they? A lot of people don't, including me (at least for now :D)
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lol i eat healthy once in awhile when my GF tells me too but when she doesn't i just munch away on chips or something. :X
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One of the reasons diets don't work: We don't account for the obvious - We love to eat (From Text)
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Ok Neo I give up. I guess I'll just shut my nonsense up. But then don't come crying that you need advice and all that krup (yeah I'm a mod so I can't write it correctly).
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That's kinda harsh. -_-
I've finally straightened things out with myself but you keep making it sound like I'm lying to myself instead T_T What else am I supposed to do but defend my case?
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Very well, Lumaholics, I am afraid that I am going to need to lock this topic before all hell is unleashed
I will gladly unlock it eventually once things are solved